The Power of a Praying Wife, by Stormie Omartian, originally published in 1996.
One of the essential things a wife can do is pray for her husband. I believe that strongly. I pray for my husband regularly but often find that in seasons of calm or marital bliss (both of which happen to be our present state), my prayers become redundant and lacking in fervency. I find myself at a loss as to what to pray for besides his health, work and wisdom.
This book has been on my book shelf for at least a decade. Well, some version of it has been on my book shelf for at least a decade. I have given away several copies over the years and had to go out and replace it.
With each return to it, I find that my attachment to it is not so much that the writing is brilliant, or even that the theology is flawlessly presented. I don’t necessarily pray the prayers within verbatim as I go through it. What I love about this book, and I do love it, is that it gives me the opportunity to do three things:
- Pray for my husband in a specific area of his life each day for 30 days with a sense of purpose and passion,
- Consider areas and struggles he may be facing that are easy for me to miss because he is such a strong and confident man, and
- Talk to him about things he may appreciate prayer for that it would never occur to him to mention.
One of the best things about this book is that there is wifely accountability built into the prayers and encouragement. For example:
If we are filled with anger and bitterness, or insist on complaining and blaming God, things tend to turn out badly.
There is plenty of direction for how to pray for God to help our husbands in their struggles, whatever they might be, for those who are concerned about that. But Mrs. Omartian makes it clear that we are not our husband’s guardians while encouraging wives to pray for God to help us to do our part by guarding our hearts:
But God considers the sins of unforgiveness, anger, hatred, self-pity, lovelessness, and revenge to be just as bad as any others.
And being the best we can be:
I pray that we will desire each other and no one else. Show me how to make myself attractive and desirable to him and be the kind of partner he needs.[emphasis mine]
Being something of a regimented person, not really given to a free flowing approach to the faith, I have a strong preference for praying Scripture which applies to a given area, and this book does that superbly! It’s my favorite part about it.
As I said in the beginning, there will be for those so inclined, opportunities to pick a nit here or there with this book. It is NOT the Bible, after all. However the balance tilts far over in favor of the good. It is a resource I recommend for just about every wife. It covers any and every possible facet of life.
I’m going to be going through it (again) starting on Wednesday, June 1st, which is why I’m reviewing it and suggesting that those of you who have a copy to find it and brush it off.
Let me know if you do.